Most partners of people with mental health problems “not fazed” when they were told

Two in three people with mental health problems who tell their partners about their condition have said that partners “weren't fazed” and were “really understanding” when they first heard the news.

Research from mental health charity Mind and relationship support provider Relate found that 77% of people with a mental health problems surveyed tell their partners about their mental health, and only 5% said their partners broke up with them when they heard about their condition.

Want to understand
In addition, 74% of a random sample of people who have been a partner of someone with a mental health problem surveyed said they weren't fazed or wanted to understand the other person's situation when they were told. Just 4% said they felt afraid.

Mind and Relate surveyed more than 1,000 people with an experience of mental health problems in romantic relationships. The survey also found that:
• 74% of people surveyed with a mental health problem said they regularly talk about their mental health with their partner, and 60% of these people said it then 'made the relationship easier to manage
• 60% people with mental health problems said being in a relationship has had a 'positive impact' on their mental health
• Half of partners surveyed said dating someone with a mental health problem wasn't as daunting as they thought it might be
• Of these people, 47% said it was because they felt the mental health problem does not define the person.

Most strain on relationships
Nevertheless, the survey revealed that, among other pressures such as financial and employment issues, the mental health problem did put the most strain on relationships. Four in five people with mental health problems surveyed said it had affected their sex life, with loss of libido and feeling unattractive or self-conscious as main issues, in comparison to just 60% partners who said it affected their sex life.

Paul Farmer, chief executive of Mind, said: "We are really delighted to see that there is a culture of openness between people with mental health problems and their partners and, maybe because of lessening stigma, more people feel that a potential partner revealing that they have a mental health problem isn't as big as an issue as expected.

"This research shows us that there are unique benefits of close relationships for people with mental health problems and that open communication is vital, so we would encourage anyone finding their relationship hard to manage to seek appropriate support and advice as soon as they can."

Positive impact on mental health
Ruth Sutherland, chief executive of Relate, added: "It is heartening to hear that 60% of people surveyed thought that being in a relationship has had a positive impact on their mental health, which bears out the experience of Relate, where we know that relationships are one of the most important aspects of our everyday lives and are central to our wellbeing.

"However, this survey also shows that mental health problems can place extra strain on a relationship and it is worrying to hear that four in five people said that it had affected their sex life for instance. We would encourage people who are experiencing problems in their relationship to seek help and support as you don't need to feel alone."